Permanent sterilization or 5 year control...So much risk, but my husband and I want more... Risk VS Reward...?

Ok, Ive had a LOT of problems with pregnancy's. This is my 5th pregnancy total.





Ive had 3 miscarriages (10 weeks, 12 weeks and 16 weeks) and a abortion for medical reasons at 10 weeks. I'm now 34 weeks along with my little boy, the doctor said I couldn't have kids any more but it happened!





Now however the doctor is talking to me about if I want to sterilize or not. I'm such a high risk for complications if I get pregnant again that she thinks it would be best to prevent any further pregnancy's.





I 100% agreed with this UNTIL I talked to my husband about getting the sterilization done. He thinks I should go with a IUD (the chemical one that lasts 5 years) I asked him why and he said ';You never know how we are going to feel in a few years.';





The problem is I have had a lot of problems with chemical based birth control's. (the pill, patch, nova ring, shot, ect)





I think he wants more kids later, and I know we can try but I don't want to get our hopes up, and I don't want complicationsPermanent sterilization or 5 year control...So much risk, but my husband and I want more... Risk VS Reward...?
I know how you feel girl.


I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks, and had to have an abortion ,at 7 weeks due to a really bad immunity problem that was kicking my ***...And now I'm a medium-risk pregnancy, 14 weeks along.


Birth control-wise, Nuva ring and the patch didn't work for me, I had weird allergic-type reactions to them.


I've been considering the IUD after this pregnancy. I'm twenty, and I'll be twenty-one after the baby is born, and I think 5 years is a great wait before I have another.


I'd say find out all that you can from your doctor about the five-year thing. Think it over, both you and your husband. And then make your decision after giving it a good month or so to think about. Because once you sterilize, adoption is the only option left. You don't want to do anything too drastic, if you ever decide you want more.


Give yourself lots of time to think, and a good, long conversation with your doctor.Permanent sterilization or 5 year control...So much risk, but my husband and I want more... Risk VS Reward...?
I recommend talking to your doctor about a non-hormone IUD (there are ones available) versus getting a tubal ligation. Then in the meantime, you should see a geneticist about your miscarriages. If you are able to carry a pregnancy (which you are), then, I would recommend waiting and try later under your doctor's guidance.
well, if you feel ready to be steril then go for it, and get that done its for your own good, but also the IUD is good, but if u say that you have had past problems witht eh chemical based birth control, then u should really look into gettin the sterilization done,


also if in the case that you wanted to have another pregnancy, you guys could always do the insiminaization(? i think thats what its called) when they grab ur egg and his sperm and they place it inside of you so that you have a pregnant.





take some time and think about what you really want.
Look your only 23 years old! If I was you I would go see another doctor or two before I made such a big decision. Talk to the other doctors and see what they have to say. And I would take your husband with you. After that make your decision. Good luck. And Congrats on the new baby.
This might sound harsh, but it's the way I feel: he's being selfish when he says you might not know how you'll feel in a few years. You have had so many complications....you weren't supposed to be able to have this baby you're having now and now the doc is warning you NOT to have anymore. You're young and you've put your body through a LOT in 23 short years. I don't even think it is fair to ask YOU to be the one who has to put up with birth control. You gave him all those kids (with great risk). HE should be the one looking into birth control for himself!
There is still the old fashioned IUD that has no hormones. That one lasts for 10 years too, much better. You should give that a try.





I definitely wouldn't get sterilized if you aren't sure about kids in the future. Sterilization is meant to be permanent. You should not do it counting on being able to reverse it again.





As your doc about a standard IUD. Good luck.
Have you investigated the birth control implants such as implanon? they last three years and worked really well for. The best thing about them is that as soon as they're removed they're gone (I got pregnant two months after having mine taken out) so it's not like the needle or even the pill. Ask your doc about them